I packed my clothes into a dirty laundry hamper, packed some miscellaneous other things, got in my car and left. I chose to take the older car, the newer car was in my name, but I wanted my kids to be safe. So I left her the newer car. I called a close friend, him and his wife met me for lunch. I told them what happened. They couldn’t believe it.
(Special thanks to this couple, we are still friends to this day and they are wonderful people. They are very down to earth and always welcomed me and the kids to their home. I am truly grateful to have such people in my life. Thanks MR and JR.)
I had no job. No money. Nowhere to go. All I had was my credit card. It had about $5k in credit available. Luckily, a close friend of mine and his family took me in. They treated me like family, I will never forget this. They never asked me to help pay for anything and fed me every day. The guilt I had was so heavy, I vowed to become rich some day and take care of them. I tried to find work, but it was tough. I tried to get my old job back, but my boss was a prick. It pleases me to know they went through multiple people after I left, that job wasn’t easy and it made me feel great later to know I kicked ass at it.
I ended up hanging out a lot with my friend that I was staying with. I went through a lot of shit to help him get with this girl. I feel like I have definitely done my part in this world in terms of wingman duties. Here are some snippets.
The Epic CBlock
So the girl he was trying to get with, had a best friend. Since I was his best friend, it was only natural I had to take it for the team, right? Well, the first time I met her, we will call her “Rapist”, was in vegas. We went out with a group of people, mostly their group of friends. I tagged along cause what else would I do? We go out, hit the clubs. Marquee had just opened then, so we went there via some of their hookups. My buddy was pissed. His girl spent that night hanging out with the dudes who got us into Marquee. He wanted to bail, I tried to calm him down but he had been drinking. He stormed out of Cosmo. I wanted to get a cab, cause it was freakin far back to our hotel, the Renaissance. He was pissed, he said “Fuck that, lets walk”. We were wearing dress shoes. Worst decision ever. Looking at google maps now, it was almost a 3 mile walk. I saw girls walking in bare feet holding their shoes, and I wanted to join them.
Next day, my legs are broken. I tell him, look man, tonight you make your move. Don’t let other people get in your way. Be aggressive and go for it. He’s pumped, we go. This night we go to TAO. He does his thing, they have a great time. That leaves me with the Rapist. She had a bf at the time, some guy out of state. She was a tiny little asian girl, but sort of gangster. She sizes me up and says to me, “Yeah, I’d fuck you.” Uh, what? Who said anything about fucking??? Then and there I knew, things wouldn’t be easy. That night we all get wasted, and the girls decide we should stay in their suite. Ok cool. Except there were like 3 other people staying there too, one couple and one friend, whom we will call CBlocker. So I do my part and take the Rapist to her bed, luckily shes wasted and passes out. Score, I don’t have to do anything. My buddy gets in the other bed with his girl, then suddenly, CBlocker jumps in too. In the middle. LOL.
We had a good laugh at this one for a long time, welcome to the most epic CBlock.
The Almost Rape
Fast forward a few months, they are sort of dating. It’s the weekend, and Rapist’s bday. My buddy’s family is gone for the weekend, so he’s thinking bring them home. Rapist broke up with her bf recently and is now single, and has her sights set on me. We go to this place downtown, and it’s pretty awkward. During dinner, Rapist says to everyone: “No one is having sex tonight unless I get birthday sex.” WHAT. THE. FUCK. Naturally, everyone looks at me, I don’t know what to say.
Now, you guys might be asking yourself, “MAN UP AND DO IT WTF WHO CARES” which is the response I heard from many friends. But, I am just not wired that way. For me there needs to be intimacy for me to do it. I wasn’t into this girl at all, and on top of that she wasn’t exactly “hard to get”, if you know what I mean.
The night goes on, we go to a club next door, she’s drinking. All night she is reinforcing the rule that no one gets ass unless she does tonight. Ugh. I play along, hoping she ends up too wasted anyway. It’s her birthday, want her to have a good time.
I still give my buddy shit for this night, cause he threw me to the wolves. After the club closes, him and his girl want to go to the beach. Santa Monica beach. At 3 AM. I have no choice, I have to drive Rapist in her car. So we go, in the car she is lovey dovey and singing me love songs. I just smile politely and drive. We make it to the beach, my buddy and his girl are out in the water. It’s pitch black. I tell him I hope a shark eats him. They frolic, I’m stuck babysitting Rapist.
Finally, it’s time to go home. I pull my buddy to the side, “Please don’t invite them back. I am tired, I just want to sleep”, I pleaded. He reassures me he won’t, then turns to his girl and invites them back. Where was that fucking shark when I needed him. Back in her car, back with the love songs. We drive, my buddy gets pulled over by the cops. Fuck. He gets out of the car, no joke, wearing no shoes, shirt open, one sock on and pants undone. I was sure he was getting arrested. He manages to avoid getting arrested and we make it home. He goes into his room with his girl. I am left with Rapist in the living room. We put blankets on the floor and make a bed. She didn’t bring anything to wear, so she needs to borrow some boxers and a shirt. Lights go out, then begins the naughty talk. She gets touchy feely, tries to sit on me, asks for lap dances, strip teases, all kinds of shit. I do my best to deflect the requests. I curl up into the fetal position and try to pretend to sleep. She lays down too and says she’s cold. I do the ass out arm hug, where you try to wrap your arm around without touching bodies. I luck out, she passes out. (As a sidenote, she tried again a few years later. lol)
Other Random Things
During this time, I spent many nights out late being the DD for my buddy. He would party every night until 3AM then wake up like a robot at 6AM for work. I didn’t know how he did it, I was exhausted just watching him. I ended up almost fighting some guy who had issue with my friend. The other guy chickened out. We drove to San Diego to party one night then drove back the same night. I went to tons of bars with him. He is like a walking happy hour app, but I love him like a brother.
During my stay with him and his family, we shared this damn futon. We are both big guys, both over 6′ tall. We slept on this sort of couch cushion thing, it was comical to say the least. We had to sleep in a way that both of our legs from the knees down would dangle and touch the floor. To this day he still thinks that thing was comfortable.
After some more drama I won’t bore you with here, I can’t deal anymore and I move out to my cousin’s house. He has a spare room I can stay in. New place to live, unemployment money coming in. I feel like finally things might be looking up.
How wrong I was.
Continue Reading – Chapter 5 – Ex Wife Drama During Separation
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